Everyone is in search of something, and most of us are trying to find happiness. Unfortunately, we don’t know where happiness lives. But, today I’m going to take you there. Are you excited? Let’s get started.
Before, we start our quest to find happiness, I want you to answer this one question ̶ Are you happy? If you are then I’m really happy for you, if you’re not, don’t worry, your happiness is on the way. Just make sure to find the cause of your hidden happiness.
Most of us try to show that we are happy, but on the inside, we are fighting silent battles and dealing with innumerable problems, all alone. No one knows about this because we chose to stay silent. The problem could be anything and battle might be how intense, but most of us don’t want to share it with anyone.
If this is the case with you then I want to tell you that you are not alone. There are billions of individuals on this planet and each one of them is having some problem to stress about. There are a vast degree of problems but no problem is so great and no problem comes without a solution, just like, there is no lock without a key.
If you can share your worry with a loved one, do it now. Bring it out. Talk about it. Let it release. Just don't hold it inside anymore. Hear me out, this is an omen that you need to take out all your worry, right now. Take a few deep breaths and release it all. Trust me, it'll be worth it.
If you can’t share it with anyone then talk to yourself. Talk out aloud. Let everything, that is causing you pain, out. You have to talk to your Self or if you want, talk to God. Tell Him everything that’s stressing you. Pour your heart out. You’ll feel lighter. Your stress level and uneasiness will be lowered.
Do any of these, but make sure that you believe it strongly that you’ll get the answer to all the problems that are clinging to you. By clearing out your heart and mind, you're making room for happiness.
Believe in yourself
Sometimes, the cause of absence of happiness is not having strong belief in yourself. Each one of us is different. No two individuals are the same, not even identical twins.
The difference of qualities and capabilities, and comparing oneself with the other, leads to reduction in the belief in oneself. You might not be the one comparing, but this can be done by others, such as, parent(s), friends, colleagues, or someone else. The comparison between any two individuals can trigger envy and jealousy, that further leads to consequences.
Envy and jealousy affects the one where they live, just like a parasite. Let’s take an example,
Two kids are best friends. They go to different schools, but they’re in the same grade. They play together, party together, and so on. So, once Veer and Rohil’s result was declared. Both of them scored well, but Veer scored 4% more than Rohil. The kids were happy and enjoying the day together. After sometime, during the next examinations, Rohil’s father instructed him to work hard and score more than Veer. Rohil couldn’t understand the intent of his father’s words. Results were announced and this time Rohil scored higher. Veer’s parents said the same thing to him, to score more. Unintentionally and unknowingly, the kids became competitors. Both of them tried to become better than the other, and this brought their friendship at stake. They were jealous of each other, and the reason was comparison. The constant comparison between the two took away their happiness and gifted them with envy and jealousy. The kids were not the one who compared each other, but it arised from their parents and fructified in them.
This is a petty and common example, but an important one too. Any kind of comparison between anyone could be a threat to happiness. The best way to solve this problem is to believe in yourself.
To believe in yourself is to understand that no one is the same. Every individual has different strengths and weaknesses. Comparison between any two people is just impossible and wrong. To compare is to suppress a being. By comparing one violates the uniqueness of the other. Comparison takes you away from happiness because it invites more negative sentiments.
We have to understand the uniqueness of the other and one’s ownself. You could be good at dancing and the other one in writing, there is no common ground. You cannot compare a teacher with, say, a lawyer. Both of them have different professions and distinct sets of qualities. A student could be brilliant at extra-curricular activity and average in academics, the other student could be opposite of this. It does not matter.
What matters is how you see yourself and the other. Believe in yourself and your capabilities. Don’t be envious, but be appreciative of the other. You can neither be good at all things nor be bad in all. You are a mixture of all things good and bad. It’s your choice what you want to bring forth.
Now, release all the negativity and start believing in yourself. When you release the bad and appreciate the good in you and others, happiness will come to you. And if you continue to do the same, happiness will stay within you forever.
Furthermore, what you give is what you get. When you appreciate someone, you not only give a compliment to that person, but you give them happiness. And as the principle says, the happiness that you shared will make its way back to you in abundance.
Last thoughts, to be happy,
Let go of all the pain and problems.
Start believing in yourself.
Appreciate everyone and be happy about their achievements and accomplishments.
Don’t let any of the negative sentiments enter you.
Then you will find that happiness was always there in your heart, but shrouded under thick layer of smoke of negativity.
Be like laughing buddha (or Feng shui). Always find a reason to laugh and be happy in your life.
One last question, Are you happy, now?
Let me know in the comments below. Share this post with your loved one’s and let’s make everyone happy.
Have a happy day!